Commandments
The church, at least the ones I know, say: there is good and bad and when you do something bad, you are guilty and amass guilt. And the church teaches you how to do better and how to get rid of the guilt.
In my eyes it is perfectly different. When Moses came down from the mountain, he had meditated and received insight about how the people, manhood, could survive and be happy. The bible calls it 10 commandments, but am convinced that there is no question of personal authority and no question of obeying. There was only Love. All the so called commandments are in our own favour and when we disregard them, we and our fellow men have the negative consequences.
Trying to make no faults out of fear to hurt others sounds good, but in my opinion it is better to see it in relation to our own personal development. Fear always is a bad adviser and it inhibits personal growth. Why is one thing good and another thing bad? It depends on the aim. If my shooting is bad, I miss the aim. Every time we wonder what is good or bad, we should realise what is the aim. No lying? What is that good for. My mother in law would die when she knew that. Well, in this case I am sure that she would not die at all, when we had never lied to her. Simply never. The world would be clearer and more beautiful, including the uneasy things in life.
Imagine a family would lie one full day. "no, I am not getting up. You look terrible, mom, etc. etc." What a complete chaos. But when we lie now and then during the day we create the same chaos. Nothing runs really fluently any more. How beautiful it would be, if people in the shops would advise us according to the facts and not the politics of the enterprise. Or at home: "Mom, it is difficult for me, when you look at me like that. That makes me unhappy."
And so it is with all commandments. Disregarding them is following our childish petty own "interests" or fears or other impulses. We need not honour our parents, because our parents like that, or because it is one of the commandments, but because we need that for a stable character and to enable a continuous culture. We sometimes say: we can learn everything, except life itself. But we can, if we look at the aims behind all we "have to do". Then our consciousness is expanding and the good actions become normal and evident.
And when we cannot find the good aims behind a prescription, we can ask people who made them. Why not ask the police why that street is shut from your direction? Perhaps they have overseen your argument.
When we are young and cannot possible see how things fit together it is sensible to obey. But when we are older, its better to look for the aims behind the prescriptions, with a positive mind, and to listen to our heart.